Women Have Problems with Sex Too
Sex is a major part of our lives that must be nurtured as we grow older. Those of us hoping to
improve sex lives can adopt a number of short-term approaches. Although many are effective temporarily, they are rarely slow solutions. There are, however, various ‘slow’ and simple principles that we can adopt to improve our sex lives and, with them, our health.
Reduced Levels of Desire and Arousal
Reduced levels of desire and arousal are the most common sexual issues for aging women, with research suggesting that around 50% of us are affected, and even more as we age. Whether loss of desire or arousal, pain during sex or problems with orgasm, these problems are usually the result of complex changes in body chemistry, particularly sex hormones, as well as barriers to sexual enjoyment and relaxation, including stress, anxiety and, in some cases, our partner’s sexual dysfunction.
Its management therefore usually involves modulating both chemistry and behavior. For example, the hormone DHEA may be useful in restoring testosterone levels and libido, and is most successful when combined with strategies to improve emotional closeness and communication.
Unable to Reach Climax
As women age, we experience another pitfall: our failing ability to reach climax. There have been many books written on the female orgasm, but little is known about what stops it being triggered in some women. Consequently, there are no simple pills we can take to prevent this problem.
In many cases, older women must develop a different relationship with their bodies and partners. The best protection against losing the ability to climax appears to be frequent good sex. Increased intensity and duration of genital stimulation, especially of the clitoris can help enhance our ability to experience a more rapid arousal and stronger orgasms.
Lack of Engagement
Sex on ‘autopilot’, emotionally disconnected and disengaged from our partner is also a lesser experience, just as ‘fast’ lives are often wasted. Take the time to slow down and enjoy the ride. Learn when your body begins to feel excited and what it takes to make you feel satisfied. It’s also important to be aware of the things that get in the way of sex.
Yes, problems with sex are more common as we age, but they are not an inevitable consequence of aging, in the same way that getting heart disease and cancer are not givens. Similarly, we can help to prevent sexual dysfunction by the actions we take today.